I remember a moment that feels to me like the instant at which we stopped being simply people who knew each other and started the process of really becoming friends...at a party at steve & Tom's house, when I mentioned to you that I had heard you were putting some space into a relationship that had become problematic, and that some people thought it a harsh decision, but that I understood and supported you in it--and you gave me a big hug and thanked me and it felt as though we were suddenly communicating on a whole new level.