This would be a fascinating--and long--conversation to have with you sometime (or several--the one about specificity in acting is probably deserving of its own) but too long a general comment, so I'll stick to one thing: love. From the early days of my relationship with Jason, I have challenged him to think about and express why he loves me in the moment. Why he loves me in general is a mystery, but usually when he says it he's thinking of something specific: my smile, my cooking, my wit, my planning, my eyes, my appreciation of him, my skin, my parenting. I think that it's one of the things that keeps our relationship really strong--loving isn't simply a habit, it's an active, immediate, specific act.